Love And Unfaithfulness
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Often times women do contradict their feelings versus words. While most women believe sexual attraction is not love, in their personal lives they wouldn't tolerate a cheating partner even if he still loves them.
To love is one thing, to be faithful is another. Being unfaithful in a relationship doesn't mean a woman does not love her partner. From my years of research on why people cheat, I found out that a woman may love her partner and still cheat on him. In most cases, they regret it.
I have met so many women who deeply love their partner, yet they cheat. Some do so out of habit.
Following are the most likely reasons why your woman may cheat while in a relationship:
Not getting quality attention.
Not showing that you still find her physically attractive. Blaming everything on her, and nagging and screaming at her. Also paying more attention to your gadgets or pets may send the wrong signal to her. A woman may love you but be so worried about losing you that she starts looking elsewhere for other needs she may have instead of bothering you. This is wrong of course.
High sex drive. She may need more sex action than you are able or willing to give. She may decide to get it elsewhere and still keep you.
Some women naturally tend to be naughty during sexual intercourse, like trying out some new sex positions or having sex in odd or memorable places. A boring inexperienced man may not be able to satisfy her even if she loves him..
Wrongly assuming she is the best thing to happen to you in bed. Such unnecessary arrogance or pride can make her complacent, leading to cheating in a relationship.
Some women are naturally turned on by cheating in a relationship - experiencing more orgasmic pleasure than they do in their normal relationships.
A relationship based solely on tangible benefits - like money given, frequency of sexting, picking her up from work, buying flowers, helping out with house chores - turns sour when some of these benefits are no longer there.
In my next article I will outline the possible reasons that make men cheat.
In conclusion because of this difference between love and faithfulness, I think one should not feel unloved when cheated on. Your partner most likely still loves you. This way, one avoids unnecessarily losing an otherwise compatible loving partner.
Couples who really love and care for each other shouldn't break up because of cheating. They should understand that love is about give and take, supporting, comforting, and helping each other grow morally ,mentally and materially. Unfaithfulness in relationships is something couples should have an honest conversation about. Talk frankly about their needs. And if you really believe sexual attraction is not love, instead of breaking up because she cheated, that should be the best time to show how much you really care and love each other. Go for counselling.
Unfortunately not many would heed this advice. That is not the attitude of a man that loves his woman. The meaning of love have been misinterpreted by many. I will be discussing the topic "Love And Lust," in another article.
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